Victoria Shalet

Email: find@spaceinme.com
Web: http://www.spaceinme.com/

Type of Therapy

Humanistic Psychotherapy and Certified Relational Life Therapist for adult Individuals and couples.

About Me & How I Work

I believe we are all wired for connection—and that we each have the capacity to live more deeply relational, satisfying lives. I see the therapeutic relationship as a safe and confidential space that can support and guide us toward that potential.

Although I originally trained in humanistic psychotherapy, my work with individuals and couples is now primarily informed by Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT). This powerful, integrative approach helps partners navigate conflict, build accountability, improve communication, and cultivate greater intimacy. The goal is to foster relationships that are more connected, conscious, and fulfilling.

Relationships inevitably move through cycles of harmony, rupture, and repair. Many of us were never shown how to navigate these cycles in a relational way, which can leave us stuck in unhelpful patterns that prevent deeper connection. RLT offers a compassionate yet direct lens through which we can examine ourselves, challenge old patterns, and learn new ways of relating—both to our partners and to ourselves.

My work integrates talking therapy with elements of Gestalt, formative experiments, and RLT skills, creating an experiential and collaborative process. Together, we explore what’s not working, what’s possible, and how to move toward more satisfying ways of being in relationship.

Before becoming a psychotherapist, I spent over two decades working as an actor in film, television, theatre, and radio. This immersive experience of observing and portraying the human condition deepened my curiosity about why we do what we do—and how our internal world shapes our behaviour and relationships.

As both a parent and a step-parent, I also understand the joys and challenges of family life. I bring this lived experience into the therapy room, along with a grounded appreciation for the kind of support needed to show up as our best selves in the context of intimate and family relationships.

Areas I Work With

Abuse
Anger management
Anxiety and panic
Bereavement and grief
Bullying
Child-related issues
Compassionate Inquiry
Couples counselling
Depression
Domestic violence
Eating disorders
Emotional Abuse
Grandiosity
Infertility
Low Self-Confidence
Low Self-Esteem
Miscarriage
Parenting/ step parenting
Physical Abuse
Relationship issues
Sexual Abuse
Sexuality issues and sexual problems
Stress and anxiety
Transitions and Change
Trauma
Work Related Issues

My Training

I am an accredited member of the BACP.

My extensive training at Spectrum, a UKCP registered centre for humanistic therapy and training, has included the following courses:

Oxford Cambridge and RSA Certificate in Counselling Skills
Spectrum One Year Course in Psychotherapy
Spectrum Postgraduate Certificate in Psychotherapy
Basic Sexuality
Childhood Sexual Abuse: Occurrence and Prevention
Working with Anger
Developing Clinical Skills
Brief Therapy
Online Therapy training
Fathers and Daughters
Working with Couples Training

I have also continued my training with couples, with renowned therapists Terry Real and Esther Perel in the United States

The Power of Intimacy with Terry Real and Esther Perel

I have completed training with Terry Real, founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), to become a Certified RLT therapist.
My training included the following:

RLT Levels 1, 2 & 3
Working with Grandiosity
Working with Men
Working with Infidelity and making love work
Couples Experiential x 2
Relationship Bootcamp: Skills Workshop
Ongoing supervision with Terry Real
The Relational Brain with Terry Real and Juliane Taylor-Shore
Relational Parenting with Terry Real and Belinda Berman-Real

Between 2020-2021, I completed a year-long training with world-renowned addiction expert Gabor Maté who specialises in trauma, addiction, stress and childhood development

Certificate of training in Gabor Maté's Compassionate Inquiry

In February 2022 I trained with Deb Dana who worked alongside and collaborated with proposer of Polyvagel theory, Professor Stephen Porges, for many years.

Foundations of Polyvagal-Informed Practice

I have previously worked as a volunteer counsellor with the Place2Be – working with children in schools, where I received extensive training – and within the NHS at Mountfield GP Surgery in North London. I have also worked as a counsellor at Harringey Women’s Forum working with women in difficult situations and as a Samaritan where I spoke to and worked with people in crisis.

I am committed to ongoing professional development and regularly attend courses to further my knowledge and experience. I am in regular supervision with both a UKCP accredited supervisor and with Terry Real for my work with couples. I am also in personal therapy for my own growth and self-care. I abide by the BACP code of Ethics.

My Rates

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Please feel free to email me with any concerns or questions you may have about the process.